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In Western cultures, there is a commonly-held belief that sexual desire is a drive, like hunger and thirst. That desire is a spontaneous, urgent experience that must be fulfilled. We see you, Wuthering Heights But. That is just the culture’s idea of sexual desire. I talk to a lot of folks who believe they must have spontaneous, out-of-the-blue, spark-y desire, that this is The One True Way, but good news; we're humans, we're unique, and we all work differently from one

A lot of folks believe that the path to better sex, The Best Sex™️, is by learning how to do that one amazing thing that will blow any partner's mind. Oh, if only it were that easy. 😮‍💨 Sexual skills matter, but, not more than any other skill in sex. And tbh, most sex education coaching is actually communication coaching, and that includes the conversations we have with ourselves. My clients, all of them, come to me with limiting beliefs about what they should! and s